This is my first draft of my exemplification essay. I hope it catches your attention.
Rebels: Starving for attention
My brother threw a fit, not because his puppy had died or because he was not allowed to stay up late, but because his socks felt uncomfortable. This was common in our household, especially because there were four children, three of which were boys. As the youngest child, I have not been able to observe every shift in attention in the family. Although, I have seen and personally experienced the actions committed by the middle child in his attempt to return the attention to himself. Adolescents, most often middle children, use rebellious behavior and destructive actions as a means of gaining much needed attention. This behavior has been exhibited in my family and is common throughout the world.
Studies is sociology have suggested that children born in the middle of a set of children are often known as forgotten children. This title is due in part to the common tendency to focus on the oldest children, those who can help with younger siblings, and their helpless, younger siblings. Most families experience this shortly after bringing home a newborn from the hospital. The older children, yearning for attention, will do whatever it takes to return the focus to them. Time is normally the only cure for this situation; rarely does the situation fail to improve by the time an infant has grown to be a toddler. When another child is brought into the home, the situation alters again. The oldest child will often take a responsible role comparable to the parents, and the middle child is left to entertain himself.
As the older child reaches an age where he is able to attend school, the middle child often sees an opportunity to take charge and improve his reputation as an older sibling. When the oldest child leaves for school, the middle child takes the initiative to assist the parents by cleaning up his room, making his own snacks, and entertaining the youngest while the parents are busy. Hopefully, as the forgotten child sees it, the parents will notice the effort put forth and will praise him for a job well done. These efforts are commonly overlooked and overshadowed by the work done by the older child. With such disappointment, the middle child looks towards good deeds with disdain; he instead resorts to destructive behavior. He knows from earlier in his life that negative actions often come with discipline, but also attention.
School can present other challenges when the middle child begins to attend. If he sees that the oldest child is praised for good grades, the middle child will put forth great effort to succeed in his studies. If this praise begins to fade as the oldest starts to struggle in his studies, the middle child may see failure as a more attention-gaining influence. Many nights, the middle child may sit nearby as the parents attempt to help the oldest child study and earn better grades. When the middle child begins to fail miserably at his schoolwork, he begins to detract attention from his older sibling. He has succeeded. His mission of gaining attention is complete, and the older child is left in his shadow. Not for long does this sense of satisfaction linger. An even more difficult test comes when the oldest child reaches adolescence.
Around the age when children reach junior high school, true social and personal challenges arise. Dating is one of the experiences when parents strongly focus their attention on the child involved. The oldest child is most likely the one to set expectations as to the quality of his significant other. If the middle child feels incapable of reaching these expectations with this own significant other, he may choose to do the opposite. His significant other will attract attention by his parents due to his unsatisfactory choice of date. Soon, the parents begin to ignore the older sibling’s relationship in favor of the middle child, because it might prove to be more problematic. Once again, the middle child has been successful in turning the attention toward himself. Many see an unpleasant significant other as a negative addition to a person, but the middle child sees it as a source of attention from his parents. Not only does the positivity of this attention prevail over the negativity of the mate, but it also encourages the middle child to make other poor choices in choosing friends.
In the modern family, children exhibit different behaviors depending on their relationship with siblings. While the oldest child is likely to have a responsible and parental personality, the middle child is more likely to commit acts that many parents dread. Middle children show jealousy when younger siblings are given necessary care for survival; they also show jealousy when older siblings succeed in their endeavors. To counter challenge these attention-necessary situations, the middle child attempts what others have not, and he also seeks to do the opposite of what his older sibling has done. The middle child is in need of attention and is in search of praise, often through negative means.